This tool is helpful in clarifying your relationships with the
people in your life. It can be as simple as just writing the names of those that you have a significant
relationship with and drawing a line representing the depth of the relationship, or you can continue with the
exercise until it is as detailed as the example below.
Draw a large circle
Write your name in the middle
Around the circle, write the names of people you have a significant relationship with,
or anyone that comes to mind. Include everyone in your
After you have
Draw a line from you to the person’s name.
Go around and write one word you associate with each person as things are
Write next to their name and your word association a color that comes to
How about adding yourself?
Look at the order you wrote the names in. Anything
interesting about whom you wrote first or last?
Is there anyone significant you have inadvertently
missed? In-laws, family, ex’s?
Add a J for those people who
contribute positively to your life or a L for those who are
currently take more than they give.
When you have finished, pick the top 2 people you would like to move issues ahead
Ask yourself what action you can take, e.g., a phone call, a letter, a visit,